I'm not sure if this is going to be one of those blogs where I say something that I think people will agree with or one where I make myself look bad by disclosing too much information...that said...
I know that as a rule of thumb we as people shouldn't be vengeful, vindictive or otherwise eager to inflict the pain someone cause us back on them. In religious circles it is called tuning the other cheek. Common sense would say that is easier said than done, but I think it is so hard in the world we live in because not everybody plays by the same rules. Does that matter? I mean has anyone reached the point where you can forgive anyone for anything? And if you think you have reached that point, can you be sure you just haven't been pushed far enough.
On a different note, I think it's important to recognize that forgiveness comes after the fact. Someone has DONE something...I mean at that point there isn't anyway to undo it so forgiveness makes sense. But what do you do if someone is in the process of trespassing another. Do they stand there and take it so they can forgive them afterwards. That doesn't make sense.
If it is bad enough aren't you allowed the moral latitude do protect yourself. Aren't you justified in standing up for yourself to make it stop? I would think so...right? Does that mean it is all about timing. Here is my point...I know people that are constantly forgiving someone for something they are doing to them. But it just keeps happening. Somewhere deep within me, that just doesn't seem right.
So here is my thought...if you have been forgiving someone over and over for something they keep doing. One day, just out of the blue, pop them square in the nose and say, "That's for next time." If they start to get upset...just ask them to forgive you.
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